Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back - Using Emotions and Pain to Get Him Back

05/26/2011 16:51

While you may have moments when you wish to use other types of pain to How to Get Your Ex Back, you probably know that physical violence and revenge will only make things worse. Taking a baseball bat to his car or truck might give you some short term satisfaction for how he has treated you but it's not going to bring him back.

And in spite of the title of this article, sitting him down and telling him exactly how you feel about him and how he has treated you throughout this breakup probably won't result in much more than a solidification of his feeling that breaking up with you was a good idea.So what kind of emotions or pain are we talking about that can actually help you to get your ex boyfriend back? Well, as you know, most men really aren't in touch with their emotions and this is the reason why using emotional triggers and psychological tactics are so powerfully effective.

All your ex is going to know after a while is that he can't stop thinking about you, that he is sorry for breaking up with you and the pain of being apart from you is so overwhelming that it is less painful to break down and ask for your forgiveness and try to get back together with you. Understand where I'm coming from?Contrary to how you might be feeling right now or what you might think is the best thing to do, right now it is important that you take a little bit of time to step back and take a look at both yourself and your relationship. You know your ex better than anyone right now and while there are a few character traits that are common the vast majority of men, there are probably a few things that you know about your ex that are unique to just him... both positive and negatives that you can keep in your hip pocket as you are coming up with a plan for what might really tweak your ex's ego and emotions.

At the root of your plan to Get Him Back though you should know that it is vitally important that you get yourself together and prepared for this endeavor. There are going to be times when you just want to cry or break down and tell him that you love him. But in relationships where emotions are all out of whack it is important that you keep your composure. You are going to have to hide your feelings and your heart from him so you don't appear desperate or needy.Desperation and neediness are two of the biggest turn-offs for guys.

A woman that is easily obtainable and is actively pursuing a guy lacks value and is often taken for granted, as you probably already know. Meanwhile, a woman that is happy all the time, fun to be around and is a little coy brings out the hunter in any man and the challenge of the chase can be a motivating emotions in itself for most men... your boyfriend included.As you reflect upon your relationship and your ex boyfriend I think you will see that just like a little boy who puts his hand on a hot stove because he likes the color of the burner, he will soon find the pain of being away from you unbearable.

When done correctly and with your whole heart, using emotions and emotional triggers that lead to twinges of pain in your ex boyfriend's heart, you will be able to How to Win Back Your Ex without having to convince him of anything.That is the sweetest and most powerful part of this whole system. It will actually be his idea to come back to you and soon you will see that it is him pursuing you instead of the other way around. Soon it will be him hurting from your breakup and wanting to get back together instead of you... or at least that will be what HE will be thinking!